…I think apologizing on the spot is the way to go.

Last week’s Reminder on how feuds should have a time limit produced some very interesting comments.  The gist of that Reminder was that if feuds had time limits, there would be no long term grudges.  As it turns out, there are a number of very wise people who have imposed a time limit regarding any feud they get drawn into.  One subscriber told me that his time limit was 30 minutes meaning that within 30 minutes of having a quarrel with someone, he would visit or phone that person and apologize.  Another subscriber said that her rule was to make sure she apologized before the sun went down that day.  Still another said his rule was not to let a feud drag on more than 24 hours.  Finally, one subscriber said her rule was to apologize on the spot rather than let a quarrel drag on at all.  Personally, I think apologizing on the spot is the way to go.  It prevents all the anxiety associated with working up the courage necessary to get back to someone in order to mend the relationship.