Some people attempt to improve their standing with those around them by focusing attention on themselves; things they’ve accomplished, places they’ve been, things they own, people they know, and so forth. While such behavior comes naturally, it does little to improve your standing with those around you because most people tend to resent such behavior. What does improve your standing is focusing attention on the deeds and accomplishments of others. This works extremely well for two reasons: First, when you direct attention to the accomplishments of someone else, you make that person feel really good, which naturally endears them to you. Second, you come across to those who observe your behavior as a caring and unselfish human being; the kind of person they want to get to know better. So, the next time you are tempted to focus attention on some of your personal deeds and accomplishments, realize that you won’t be benefiting yourself by doing so. Instead, direct attention to the accomplishments of other people and watch your standing among those around you take off. 

One Sentence Wisdom 

• “Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ‘What’s in it for me?’” — Brian Tracy 

• “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou 

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