Recently, I attended an evening meeting held in a private dining room at a local restaurant. There were about 20 of us sitting around a large table discussing various subjects and only one server to take care of us. This server was trying very hard to meet everyone’s needs and after a while she began to look stressed. While this was going on, I noticed that no one showed an interest in her. No one said “please” or “thank you” and no one asked her how her day was going. Instead, they treated like an automaton. What is interesting to note is that all the people sitting around the table consider themselves to be very kind. Two of them were pastors. It’s not that my friends were rude to the server, but they were so preoccupied with what they were discussing that they didn’t think about being kind to her. When she came to take my order, I asked her how her day was going. When she was finished taking it, I thanked her and then touched her arm and said, “Take your time, these people are not in a hurry.” During the rest of the meeting, I said several other positive things to her and complimented her on the excellent job she was doing. When the meeting ended and I walked out of the room, this server was waiting for me. She greeted me with a smile, thanked me for my kindness and told me that I had made her evening. I let her know that she had just made my evening as well.