Many people choose to follow the crowd by taking the well-worn path through life. They find this choice appealing because it seems relatively risk free and it keeps them well inside their comfort zone. In reality, there are huge risks associated with following the crowd. First, you give up a great deal of your uniqueness…
In 1921, Lewis Terman, a psychologist at Stanford University began a long-term study of 1,528 twelve-year-old American children. The goal of this project was to study their lives and habits until they died. Ninety years later, Howard Friedman, a Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of California Riverside and Leslie Martin, Professor of Psychology…
An article by Brad Stulberg, which appeared in The Wall Street Journal, points out that being alone and isolated is not good for us—as human beings we need friendships to thrive. He then points out that our great religious traditions have known this all along. For example, St. Augustine said in a fourth century sermon, “In…
Recently, I received an email with a list of effortless ways to extend kindness to people and make your corner of the planet a better place. I’d like to share some of them with you: Send someone a card. Smile at someone who looks like they need a little cheering up. Let someone go ahead…
An article written by Ashley Macha, which appeared in The Arizona Republic, said if you surround yourself with healthy, strong friendships, you’ll live longer, have less stress and potentially fewer health issues. The article went on to say that people with more relationships are more resilient and better able to bounce back from what life throws…
We’ve all been there. We’re feeling down, having a bad day or worried about something and we try to tell a friend how we’re feeling. We’re looking for a listening ear, but instead we get cheery advice in the form of, “Don’t worry, everything will be okay,” or “You know, it could be a lot…
Some people look at performing acts of kindness as the expenditure of time and effort on their part to benefit someone else. This is simply not true! The big winner for being kind is you. First, performing acts of kindness makes you feel good because it releases the reservoir of positive energy that resides inside…
Many of us tend to over-think things rather than doing them. Think about all the times you thought about having friends over for dinner and then you put it off. You thought about it again and again and continued to put it off. Then you finally invited them over, had a wonderful time and said…
It’s the roughest road that usually leads to success. Why? Because it’s loaded with new challenges and experiences that enable you to learn, grow and expand your comfort zone. Successful people understand this, which is why they rarely take the easy way out of any challenging situation. They know that the rough road will require…
An article by Elizabeth Bernstein which appeared in The Wall Street Journal, points out that people who have solid friendships live longer and healthier lives. She goes on to say, “Friendship decreases blood pressure and stress, reduces the risk of depression and increases longevity, in large part because someone is looking out for us. Ms.…