I had just boarded my connecting flight and was headed home. As I settled into my seat, I looked up and saw a famous business author/speaker and his wife board the plane. The two had not been seated together, so the author/speaker asked the gentleman across the aisle if he would trade seats with his wife so they could sit together. When the gentleman said that he preferred his current seat, the author/speaker became combative and insisted the gentleman change seats. Eventually, the gentleman agreed, and the author and his wife were able to sit together. As he was sitting down, the author/speaker looked my way and I glared at him in disapproval. A few minutes later, he got up and apologized to the gentleman whom he had just bullied. He then asked for his business card and promised to send the gentleman copies of each of his books. He then looked back at me, smiled sheepishly, and sat back down. I think nearly everyone on the plane knew who this man was, and they were all disappointed by what they had just observed. He had written several books on the importance of treating people with kindness, dignity and respect, but with one brief incident, he showed us he was not only a hypocrite, but a bully as well. As a result, I never bought another one of his books and I’m sure others on the plane did the same. The lesson here is, always behave as if someone important is watching, because they probably are.
I begin each day asking for strength and guidance to be an example to others, that they may see something in my life that they would like to have in their own. I also live by a personal saying: Be careful of the shadow that you cast.
These two simple, but meaningful daily strategies have guided me for 72 years.