I came across a blog post on LinkedIn Pulse by Jeff Haden titled, “10 Habits of Genuinely Charming People.” As it turns out, we’re naturally attracted to charming people— “…individuals who are genuinely polite, modest, agreeable, kind.” Note, the watchword here is “genuinely,” you can’t fake this stuff. I have listed several of the 10 habits below:
- They willingly show a little vulnerability. They admit their shortcomings rather than trying to cover them up.
- They show they’re genuinely glad to meet you. They smile, make eye contact and actively listen to what you have to say.
- They search for agreement instead of contradiction.
- They never name drop.
- They treat everyone the same way: as deserving of respect and kindness.
- They always let you talk more.
Each one of these habits makes sense and is easy to execute which means any of us could become genuinely charming if we wanted to. Choosing to do so means we’ll make a lot of friends and be extremely well liked. This makes charming sound like a pretty good way to go.